What is selfconnect?

Time for you to connect to the strength of who you are, identify what you need, and the challenges that get in the way of living a content-full life, with the support of a professional who uses a combined approach of Psychodynamic Counselling, Person Centred Counselling and Life Coaching, tailoring relevantly to each individual, and their age/developmental requirements. To move forward to improve your life, you often need to go back to look at the reasons you feel stuck, or recognise that some healing needs to take place first to get in touch with your inner clarity and strength, which may currently feel diminished.

Throughout life, situations change, experiences happen, and you can find yourself feeling differently, unhappy, stressed, anxious, emotional or behaviours easily triggered. It might be difficult to acknowledge or articulate specifically, but you know you don’t feel right. Not yourself.

Your capacity and options at points in life can be challenging. You may think that others seem to cope better and that you should be okay as nothing major has happened. Or maybe it has. Maybe a combination and accumulation of things have happened, and it has started to have an impact on you, whether consciously or unconsciously.

Connecting with a professional regularly, facilitating you to connect back to yourself, in a supportive and non-judgemental space, to discuss your experience(s) will help you to navigate your particular situation, and provide you with support through any painful or seemingly scary aspects. Perhaps these are particular events, on-going stress, toxic environments, difficult or changing relationships, a traumatic situation, loss, ageing, illness, regrets, loneliness, a sense of ongoing failure or not being good enough? Everyone is different. Growing up in your unique environment and the experiences you have encountered along the way will have contributed to who you are today. And it’s okay to admit you don’t feel okay and seek support to work through this. 

Being your authentic self may be a desire, or a quiet and distant sense you have, and you may feel unsafe to be so, or even unsure of who you really are or what you [now] want.  If you haven’t been easily accepted or unconditionally valued and loved, perhaps from a young age, you may have had to keep adapting in order to get the connection with others which made you feel safer, or made choices that deviated you away from what you deep down sense, and you now feel at a bit of a loss and without personal purpose, or stamina.

Talking to someone impartial, connecting with another and feeling heard has proven benefits. It’s different to talking to friends or family. You may not want to worry others, or bring them down, and they may offer responses or opinions that unfortunately don’t completely serve your needs.

You may not want to admit that you need to talk to anyone, as you’ve always been able to deal with things until now. It may be that surviving in the world right now is hard and you’re at a dead end. Either way, getting in touch to start to connect is a step forward.

It's not always an easy flick of a switch, however working safely with the right therapist can:

• connect with unconscious beliefs, needs or emotions that have become ‘depressed’

• ascertain your circumstantial programming from particular dynamics over the years

• clear layers of fear, confusion and vulnerability at being who you deep down strive to be, and feel better and more empowered in your life

• enable you to move forward, have good relations with others, feel more content and with more choices emerging.

If you’re willing to spend some regular time, we can discuss your situation, connect with your unique self, bring awareness to what’s going on, consider possible signals in your emotions and body to know what’s serving you, and what’s not, and enable conscious awareness and decisions in your life, to feel more secure and happy. 

Getting to know you, and being there for you is the key.